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Would you allow your kid to have sex in your house, knowing it may be safer? (14 posts)

9 months, 3 weeks ago
By corinne

When Good Morning America broke the story “Safer Sex? Some Parents Allow Their Teens to Have Sex Inside Family Home,” a serious debate began online.

We asked moms like you on our Facebook page if they’d let their kids have sex inside the home, and here’s what they said:
Yes, it’s a much safer and cleaner environment: 1 vote
No, it will encourage them to do it prematurely: 59 votes
Maybe, only if I approve of the relationship: 2 votes

What do you think? Do you agree with the GMA story or with our Facebook fans? Why or why not?

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mamielena said 9 months, 3 weeks ago:

My son and his girlfriend did! I was shocked at first, but then I considered that their only other option would be sneaking around in his car or who knows where else. Plus, it was the best way to ensure that they were being safe. It was weird at first, but I got used to it. I just asked them to never do it while we were in the house.
nycgal said 9 months, 3 weeks ago:

I have mixed feelings about this. On the one hand, I agree that it’s safer and cleaner at home, but I don’t love the idea of my kids having sex while I’m downstairs or in the other room. That’s a good idea, @mamielena, asking them not to do it when you’re home!
momstergirl said 9 months, 3 weeks ago:

Wow, even as an adult I can’t imagine doing that now (or before) in my parent’s home! But I guess as a parent, if you know that your son or daughter is in a monogamous relationship and already having sex, you can either turn a blind eye and let them end up where they may or you can admit that this is part of growing up and at least offer them a safe place to go.
chjmk said 9 months, 2 weeks ago:

What?! I can’t believe it being “safer and cleaner” is a justification for allowing sex to happen under our roofs, and I am flabbergasted!! What are parents thinking?! No, I will not “allow” this. If my kids are going to experiment with anything, I WILL NOT MAKE IT EASY FOR THEM BECAUSE IT IS MY JOB AS A PARENT TO TRY AND HELP THEM CHOOSE THE RIGHT THINGS. Safer?! Yeah, I guess if they do it at home, there’s no risk of an STD, pregnancy, indiscriminate and meaningless interludes and our kids sleeping around with everyone they date?? And, of course, when their heart is broken because they are giving their precious soul away piece by piece, how will we face them if we knew and supported it the whole time??
nycjj said 6 months, 1 week ago:

My oldest is just 7 and so I have some years to try to figure this out, but what a tricky issue. Definitely agree that I could not imagine permitting this while I was home. Sex is such a fraught topic!!
vixengem said 5 months, 2 weeks ago:

well my son is only three and a half months old and I know I have a long time till he is of age but to honest with you I would not allow him to disrespect my home and me.I believe that once you allow that to take place it will take place all the time and it will as though you gave him/her permission to have a active sex life.I disagree parents can only be open to a certain degree for there own discretion as well

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lisact said 5 months, 2 weeks ago:

I will adopt a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. While I know my sons will have sex at some point, I don’t need to be involved in the details of where and when. But I do see it as my job to be involved in teaching them to be careful, use protection and be respectful of their partners.
paxregina said 5 months, 2 weeks ago:

Uh, no! I agree that we have to talk to out teens about this in a serious way and keep the lines of communication open, but why make it easier for them to rush things? I am going to tell both my son and my daughter to wait as long as possible before making that leap. And definitely not in my house–until they’re married!
campie said 4 months, 1 week ago:

I say the “don’t ask don’t tell” applies here for me too! I am a married woman with 2 teenage girls & I would never “allow” this to happen in my home. I don’t even “do it” when my own mother sleeps here!!!
rajbill said 2 months, 1 week ago:

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justalittlecommonsense1 said 2 months, 1 week ago:

how in the world is allowing your children to have sex in your home “safer” . STD is not “caught” from an unclean car seat. It is in no way “safer” and the fact that you just don’t want them to do it when you are not home leaves me with my mouth hanging open. Parents are suppose to be the people that help their children learn right from wrong. Wouldn’t having a conversation about consequences and life choices be a better decision. So NO !!! Not in my house whether I am home or not. I require more respect than that.
lisan said 1 month, 4 weeks ago:

“Cleaner and safer” as compared to where? I can’t imagine! Or, maybe I can! My daughter does have sex in our home. When she told me she was having sex, I took her to the doctor for the pill. She would spend the night at his house (his parents pretended he slept downstairs) and he came over to our house. Why pretend and have him sneak into her room in the middle of the night. They are having sex. No biggie in our home.
How can having sex at home stop them from getting pregnant or an STD? That is a different issue altogether, and you should talk to your kids about that way before they are old enough to date, and again when they do.
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