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My son blamed every-one/-thing else when he has made a mistake, what should I do? (4 posts)

3 months, 2 weeks ago
By ibuuti

My son (11) can not admit that he has made a mistake. He blamed every -one/-thing else when he has made a mistake. He put himself always on the right side or as a victim. The result is, he always make the same mistake over and over again, because he does not want to see that he is wrong. Even for a small thing, he cannot or not want to do it correctly. And I feel like a broken record, to say again and again – for example – “put your writing utensils always in the same place, so you do not need a whole hour only for looking where they are.” (Of course I also bought him some boxes, plus labeling, which box for what, etc.) Am I the only mother who has this problem? What should I do to make him understand that he will not be better, if he cannot even admit that he have made a mistake. (Trust me, my husband and I have been through many and long discussion times with him)

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    momx2 said 1 month, 2 weeks ago:

    I have a daughter (16) with the same issue. We are exhausted. Numerous discussions have not gotten through to her. She has recently been losing priveledges — phone, parties. But it only repeats. We made her confess in front of her boyfriend and mother about a certain incident that she lied or basically something that “wasn’t her fault”. We thought it made a light turn on but not really. ????

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    zanitah said 1 month, 2 weeks ago:

    My daughter is 11 and we are having similar issues, I’m trying to teach her that she has to be responsible for her part in whatever the wrongdoing was. It’s always well he or she made me, or I wouldn’t have been talking if they would have left me alone. Basically I tell her she has to practice self control and if she doesn’t I cannot disicipline the others but I can her, so if she chooses to participate in the behavior the consequences will ultimately fall on her and it seems to have helped a little.

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    ozdadster said 1 month, 2 weeks ago:

    I have created a program here in Australia which aims to move children from irresponsibility to responsibility…it is implemented within the schools…check out http://www.theritejourney.com.au

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